How To Be A Better Friend To Yourself

The relationship with yourself is the most important relationship in your life. When this relationship is off, everything is off. 

The sooner you prioritize this relationship, the sooner you will feel alignment and comfort in your own life. 

By no means is this an exclusive list, but here are a few ways you can start to be a better friend to yourself:

(1) Acknowledge Yourself

Acknowledge that you are a living, breathing, human being. Say to yourself, "hey, self! I see you!" 

How can you feel self-love if you don't even notice you're here? How could you possibly go from completely ignoring yourself to completely loving yourself?

You can't overnight. 

Be gentle with yourself. Start by noticing that you're here. Start by noticing that you're a human being. Start by seeing yourself. Start by simply acknowledging your unique existence. Meet yourself where you are.


(2) Start Viewing the Time You Spend Alone As Time Well-Spent

If you're moving too fast, you might get so caught up in the external stuff (places to go, people to see) that you forget to notice that the time you spend with yourself is valuable too. 

Think about the friendships in your life.

There are friends you only see in group settings - you'll catch up at parties or maybe cross paths in the group text. But you probably wouldn't schedule a time to hang out with them 1:1.

Do you initiate quality 1:1 time with yourself or is that the type of friendship you have with yourself too?


(3) Get To Know Yourself

Get to know yourself the same way you invest energy in getting to know your truest friends. 

You take the time to see them for who they are, help peel back their layers, and go beyond the surface level. So do that for you, too!


Connect with yourself. Learn about yourself. Gather information about what feels good and what doesn't.

Then go from there.


You've seen it your whole life: the more love and energy you put towards your relationships, the better the outcomes. Give yourself a chance and see what happens when you start treating yourself like a really good friend.

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