You Are Enough This Holiday Season

Jun 06, 2020

Being a human being myself and working with other human beings, I notice that many of us have the unfortunate tendency to send ourselves the message that we should be doing more.

 

I think some people use this “more, more, more” approach constructively as a way to motivate themselves to be the best version of themselves they can be. Which has potential to be great and healthy if that’s what you’re actually doing. But I feel like the majority of people using this “more, more, more” approach are more externally focused and not very aligned with what truly feels good and right for themselves. (i.e. I must do more so my kids have the same holiday experience as the other families at school; I need to buy my friend an expensive gift because they bought me an expensive gift last year).

 

I challenge you to check in with yourself on this, especially as we are in the thick of the holiday season and closing the chapter on 2019. 

 

Breathe in: “I am”

Breathe out: “enough.”

Again.

Breathe in: “I am”

Breathe out: “enough.”

 

And again and again and again. Until you come back into your body and truly become at peace with just being here, now.

 

Reminding yourself that you are enough is not saying “okay good enough, I quit.” 

 

Reminding yourself that you are enough is showing yourself compassion. It’s giving yourself permission to feel at ease. It’s giving yourself permission to feel proud of where you are right now. It’s showing yourself respect and not discounting all that you have done and continue to do. It’s showing up for yourself. It’s trusting that your own experience and how far you’ve come in this life is valid.

 

You are enough this December.

If you wish you had more money to buy gifts for the people you love. You are enough.

If you have no exciting life updates to share at the family party this year. You are enough.

If you gained weight since last year. You are enough.

If you lost weight but not as much as you wanted. You are enough.

If you are closing out the year unemployed. You are enough.

If you didn’t quit smoking, drinking or another habit this year like you wanted to. You are enough.

If you don’t have children or a successful career like your siblings. You are enough.

If you are exhausted from being a working parent and preparing for the holidays. You are enough.

If you have time off this week but feel like you should’ve done more before the break. You are enough.

If this is the first time you’ve been to church this year. You are enough.

If you decided you don’t want to go to church this year. You are enough.

If you received a “better” gift than you gave someone. You are enough.

If you’re comparing yourself to the other professionally photographed families on Facebook and feeling like you need to post more. You are enough.

If you didn’t stick with your 2019 resolution. You are enough.

If you eat too many cookies this week. You are enough.

If you’re in debt. You are enough.

If you are working hard but don’t have a degree or salary to show for it. You are enough.

If you forgot to do Elf on the Shelf last night. You are enough.

If you could afford expensive gifts last year but can’t this year. You are enough.

If this is the first holiday you’ve made it home for in 5 years. You are enough.

If you have to work and can’t get off to be with your family. You are enough.

If all you’re bringing to holiday dinner is yourself. You are enough.

If you are a living, breathing, human being. Tell yourself right now - I am enough. 

 

Again, this you are enough mantra is not to say you can’t or shouldn’t grow. Because growth and change are necessary and good. 

 

This you are enough mantra is simply putting an end to all the negative energy you’re communicating to yourself. It’s taking your negativity and shifting it to neutrality. Not even positive yet - start with neutral. The second you start to have an “I’m not enough” thought or feeling, breathe. And stop there. No one can do this for you, only you can give yourself this gift of acceptance. 

 

No matter how low your morale is, how much you can’t stand yourself right now or how much you know you could’ve and should’ve done better or more in 2019. Drilling these “not enough” messages into your subconscious mind over and over and over again are contributing absolutely nothing helpful or positive to your life. Be brutally honest with yourself and know this. And if you already know this and keep doing it anyways, hang in there. That’s a blog for another time.

 

You are enough. 

 

When you get in this healthy habit of validating and accepting yourself, you are decluttering. You are creating clarity for what actually matters and what your next productive feeling or thought could be. You are showing yourself you’re not going to waste any more time or energy on something that is keeping you paralyzed or worse, pushing you further away from where you want to be. So the second you start to feel frustrated with yourself like you should’ve done more, stop. Please stop, and breathe. 

 

You are enough. 

 

Can you show yourself some compassion for the remainder of the decade? You are enough. In fact, you are far more than enough. 

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